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LupieD

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I came across this article

http://www.aarp.org/work/social-security/info-2016/divorced-social-security-benefits.html

(scroll down once on the page. It takes a moment to load)

that says you may be eligible to qualify at your ex-spouses rate if it's more than yours. It does have 3 major criteria

". Q: My former spouse is still living. What are the basics for that set of rules?

A: Basically, you can receive benefits based on your ex-spouse's work record if:

Your marriage lasted 10 years or longer
You are currently unmarried
You're 62 or older
Any retirement benefit that you're entitled to receive based on your own work record must be lower than the benefit you'd receive from your ex-spouse's record. Basically, you collect whichever benefit is higher. You can't collect both."

I'm wondering if you still need to be 62 if you're permanently and totally disabled. I called the SSA office today and held for over an hour until my battery died.

Is anyone familiar with this?



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Kinda

When I worked and our chairmen was getting ready to retire she was moving into this newly constructed place by Stanford. It was a place that seniors of all ages can go to she bought I to it and they had 1 bedroom 2 bedrooms etc. what was neat about this place was has you got older and more things happened like you needed someone to come look after you there was someone there for that. Also you had a kitchen but there was a restaurant or cafeteria.

Anyway she had been divorced a long time. Her ex husband had gone on to remarry not once but twice. He divorced those lady's and they remarried. He then died. So she was 62 or 65 I can't remember what and still working but she found out she could collect some of his SS money because they had been married for 10 years and because she never remarried and he was divorced at the time of his death.

She was tickled about it because she was going to put the extra money she now received from him aside and once a year her and her cousin were going to take a nice trip on him. And she really did take nice trips to Africa, Paris etc

One last thing the SSA office is crazy busy the first part of the month. Wait till the middle of the month. But I would have handy when you called his SS number if you have it when you married and the date your divorce was finalized. Those are all things they will need

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Great info. Thanks.

The other question I have is this......it says you must have been married at least 10 years. I'm finding that, for some things, they use the date of separation. Others, they use the date of dissolution. Do you happen to know which SSA uses?

The judge ruled our date of separation to be 9.5 years after our date of marriage. Because my ex wanted to play nasty, thinking he would bury me in legal fees, he dragged his feet for over 5 years to finalize the divorce. Silly boy......that ended up costing him an estimated $325,000 from his pensions.

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I am banking on that myself. Although I was married 23 yrs.  LOL! My ex refused to pay alimony. He could have used it as deduction, but NO!! I even told him that but his mindset was not paying "me". Whatevs!
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Sorry I don't know the answer to that. She was shocked when she found out and the way she found out is she made an appointment to go in and sign up for SS and then they asked her if she was married or divorced and I don't think she even had to have his SS number.

I am hoping it's the date that the divorce was finalized. I had the same issue with my ex. He did not want the divorce but he did not want to live with a son with autism. It took years to get the divorce plus 7 sets of divorce papers. I finely sent them to his girlfriend. He told her I would not sign. She wanted to get married but they could not since he was already married. I sent the papers to her he had no choice but to sign they were married less then 3 months later

Keep us posted on what happens. But I would wait till the middle of the month to call or you might just make an appointment and to down there with your paperwork. You could kill 2 birds with one stone

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Hmmmmmm.. My ex sounds a lot like yours. Wanted the cake and the baker too. ;-)

He filed for divorce 4 years into his affair to appease his girlfriend and then spent the next 5 years telling her I was the one dragging it out. They were married 3 months after our divorce was finalized as well. Boys are stupid.

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Quote:
Originally Posted by DeBartolo


just the sad souls who think they understand women.

for all intents & purposes, you’re another species.

in a good way, of course.




I cannot argue with that.

I was anxious to see how you'd reply when I said "boys are stupid". You never disappoint.

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Originally Posted by LupieD
Boys are stupid.


just the sad souls who think they can understand women.

for all intents & purposes, you’re another species.

in a good way, of course.

but you do take some getting used to.

edited addition - sorry, my editor keep screwing up.

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