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Mr. Bun

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Hey everyone,

Life is funny eh?  and also very precious.

Recently, I reconnected with an old friend.  While we didn't go to the same high school, we hung around a big group of people known as "The Freaks" lol.  mainly, a local band and all it's followers.  boy....did we have fun.  I was dating the bass player.  I still see him every now and again....and he still makes my heart sing.

In 1978....we all got a big shock.  Four friends of ours were involved in a fiery car crash.  No one died, but the driver, my friend, was thrown from the car and not expected to live.

But she DID live, confined to a wheelchair.......her spine severed.  She is feisty.......and went through intense therapy.

Eventually she married a great guy and had two children.  I remember being surprised that she could have children.......but even though her spine was severed.....all internal organs still worked (duh) lol.

I gave her guitar lessons about 15 years ago.....before I moved to another city. 

Fast forward to now.  I moved back to London about 5 years ago and was over in her part of the city.....thought I would drop in.  well........I had the best day.  She was SO excited to see me....and I ....her.  Went back home....grabbed my guitar, came back and we jammed for hours.

That's when I learned she had breast cancer.  She just finished her second round of chemo and was celebrating smooth sailing!  Both breasts removed.  And she had this energy that was contagious!!  We made plans to get together again.....with a couple other people.

Those couple other people were friends I had not seen in over 40 years!!  And the guy.....has DLE.  wow.....did WE have a lot to talk about lol.  His wife?  I used to play with her older sister....in 1978.......in their house around the corner from my parents place!  did WE have a lot to talk about lol!  They are Ukulele players.......we jammed all day.  soooooo much fun.

Well.......the cancer is back.  She can't have another round of chemo so close to the last one she just finished in January.  It's aggressive.  She got word from her cancer team.....that if she starts another drug (she calls it Godzilla...it's crazy strong) she may make it to her next birthday.....which is one day after mine, in October.  We were in the hospital nursery together.  :O)  She calls me "Twin".

This woman has had more to handle than I could ever imagine.  And she just lights up the room with her happiness.  She has skipped through "the five stages of death" and is now at acceptance.  It's heartbreaking.

So.....life is short.  Tell people you love them.  make someone feel good today.  Say something nice to a stranger.....you never know what someone is going through.

I love this board.  I love CupCake and Robin.  Loved Anthony too....but life was cut short before I could tell him that.

love,

melancholy Bun

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Bun,

That is something I was thinking about just today. I mean in terms of life being short and how/why hands are dealt to certain people. The best friend that I talked about this morning from England is the one I think about all the time. Her family moved to Canada from England and then moved to Mass when she and I were in the 4th grade. I recall kids making fun of her because of her accent and the way she dressed. We were an instant hit. She was stunningly beautiful as a child and as an adult.
I say was because, she is no longer on this earth. She made some bad choices in life after I moved here to Maine. Heroin was her drug of choice and the cause of her contracting HIV/AIDS. Her family was very wealthy, but VERY dysfunctional and she ended up alone and on state and federal aid. Her heroin abuse caused her intestinal system to fail and she had a colostomy at the age of 35. Yet, she never gave up. I lost her a few years ago. She died on my birthday and asked for me before she left this world. (she had one supportive sister that called me).

Anyway, telling you about those wonderful breakfasts that her Dad made gave me such a smile.

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And learning, that I had a breakfast.....that you remembered from your friend.....while I thought about MY friend....

gave me such a smile too.

Ty....XoxBun
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CupCake?

So much love your way it should hit you like a tidal wave.

My mind is busy thinking of all I am grateful for. You come to mind right off the bat.

Xoxbunxox
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Thank you l love everyone here. I am just going through A rough patch
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A rough patch.....yes sweetie.

Those suck big time......i wish I was there.....to kick @ss lol.

But I'm way up here....kickin @ss against my own demons.

Lately...they have been pretty whimpy....and they backed down when I expressed my p!ssed-offed-ness. That's a new word.... I think.

Cake? Don't take any sh!t.

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